The meaning of a queer girl,fag hag : myth or reality? Discover hidden truths and broken clichés"
As part of the HappyGayTV Show, devoted to the collective of artists "Les Funambules" (soon available online) and highlighting their hit "Fille à Pédés" (fag hag, queer girl), we wondered about the true meaning of a "girl to fags". Is it a fact or a myth? What is the connection between these girls and homosexuals? To answer these questions, we took the opportunity to go to the Spring Associations Fair in Paris (France) and interview the LGBT community. This vox pop, both funny and witty, is without a doubt one of the best moments of HappyGayTV!
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What is a Fag hag ?
A fag hag is a heterosexual woman or young girl who seeks real complicity with homosexual men, a friendship without any kind of ambiguity. Thus, she feels reassured. This gay man acts, in a way, as a confidant, a protector. She knows that with him, she is not in danger, she does not fear anything. Thanks to him, she will be able to attend places, go to parties, where she would never have had the courage to go alone. But the risk is that from this complicity, an impossible, inaccessible love of an exclusively platonic nature is born. Because, as you understood it, unless the guy is bi, it is quite obvious that it can never lead to a sexual relation. And who knows, if in the long term, she will not regret having chosen this very special friendship ...
Another acceptance of the term fag hag is to qualify a girl or a woman who frees herself from prejudices, from the dictates of society, to live her life in a completely free way. This qualifier could be considered a vulgar term due to the use of the word "fag", considered to be pejorative. However, more often than not, and the song of the Funambules testifies, it is a rather friendly term, a true tribute dedicated to women who want to live their lives as they see fit.
Fag hag : Myth or Reality?
This term is not at all an invention, a view of the mind, since famous women have openly displayed their relationship with homosexuals such as Marguerite Yourcenar or Marguerite Duras who, for her part, has really lived with a gay who was none other than Yann Andréas. There was also a Miss Fag Hag (queer girl) election held in 2010, during the Mermaid Parade in Coney Island (Brooklyn, New York city, USA).
Girls and gays in gay culture
In the cinema and in the series
Many films deal with this subject, the very first is undoubtedly: “Remember last summer” directed by Joseph L. Mankiewicz, from the eponymous play by Tenessee Williams where Elisabeth Taylor agrees to accompany Montgomery Clift, to allow her to seduce the men she herself attracts.
Among French films, we cannot ignore the excellent “Soft Pedals” where Fanny Ardant and Michèle Laroque are typically assumed “queer girls”.
"An almost perfect couple" or Madonna and Rupert Everett, will get together to jointly raise a child.
In the Glee series, a series where there are assumed LGBT characters, Kurt clearly qualifies Tina as FAP (queer girl) in the fourteenth episode of season 4.
In the litterature
One of the most famous works, which has also given rise to a television series and which shows very well this attachment of women to homosexuals, are obviously the various books of Armistead Maupin and his famous Chronicle of San Francisco, which very well describes a queer girl with the very endearing character of Mona.
In Japan since the 1970s, there are Mangas called Yaoi and in Europe "Boys' love" which are literary works which are addressed only to girls and whose characters are exclusively homosexuals.
In the song
In the popular French-language song, the first title to have mentioned a friendship between a girl and a gay and the impossible love that characterizes this relationship is: “Un garçon pas comme les autres" (Ziggy, il s’appelle, Ziggy…) “A boy unlike any other” (Ziggy, his name is, Ziggy…) in the rock opera "Starmania" by Luc Plamondon / Michel Berger / Tim Rice, hit performed by Fabienne Thibeault (1978) and taken over in 1987 by Céline Dion.
Let’s not forget either, the Funambules album, with their flagship title, "Fille à Pédés" : "Fag Hag", the proceeds of which go directly to associations fighting against transphobia and homophobia.
In the English song, it is unambiguous that Lily Allen, sings "Fag Hag" in her album: "It’s not me, it’s you!" (2009)
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Show transcript
"You're a fag hag" Shout it out and be proud of it! Hello, my little ones! I don't know if you know this song “Fag hags”. It's one of the songs from the artists' collective "The Funambulists" who are battling constantly against homophobia with their leader Stéphane Corbin who we are going to host very soon on the HappyGayTV Show.
Well, that's just it. We just wanted to know what this expression meant to you "Fag hags". So we went to to meet you. But look ! What I wanted to do to tell you before watching this report, is that this street-interview in my opinion will be in the top ten of the best street interviews that we have made with you on the spot. Check it out! They are "fag hags"
So a fag hag she' s the best. She's friend with homosexuals. We like them, we love them. Thankfully, they are here because, well! Still ! At least we have Tupperware meetings, at least we have someone to talk to! Fag hags! That's what we call them, Their friends are all gay, Even if they french kiss them...
- For starters, it's a girl. Or even a woman. - Yes,... Yeah, it depends on the age actually. That's the... That's it. - There you go! - Usually it's a girl! - That's it! When you're gay and your best girl-friend with whom .. you can, uh, talk about anything, without a hitch without taboos since there will be no no judgment! They know how to listen to girls in important moments, in the worst moments too,
They know how to listen all the time... It doesn't have to be a bad thing if she isn't too intrusive, because she takes a lot of your time imagining and hoping for things that ultimately may not happen, even definitely are not happening at all. There's no such thing as two identical queers A "Fag hag, I don't know what that means !
I have gay friends who think that maybe these young girls, these individuals, by having friends, who are gay, and are rather tasteful etc.., they are not in danger, either, when they go out with them! If you've had too much to drink, you would rather go dancing, with men bare-chested who will never hit on you We have seen "Fag hags" who were actually boys, right ? Yes, let's say that she' s a girl.
- we have seen "fag hags" become women to fags! - Also! - That's usually because they are single for a very, very long time! - Yes, that's it! I was once a "fag hag " but because I found myself in it, as a homosexual. Okay, I was... I was really into, confidences, relationships, getting to explore new things together... And we've already been qualified as such. But in the 80s we didn't call it like that! We didn't say a "fag hag"!
They used to say a tomboy, or a flapper Except I was really in that category! We are fag hags The ones who make fun of people the ones who are narrow-minded with no sense of humour at all, Fag hags... Most of the time she likes the company of men homosexuals with a dick. That's it! Sensitive boys, refined... With a lot of good taste: the decoration,
they are hairdressers, groomers, sometimes! Groomers.... They don't often have a beard because, No, it doesn't suit them! The "fag hag" doesn't like necessarily the attributes of manhood. Why do we always say "fag hag" ? Why couldn't we say a "Hag's fag"! Why does it always have to be this way ? So I'm sure there are some... Boys who would like to who are also...
Who only hang out with girls. Maybe, straight too! I don't know a boy, Who likes how I dress, Who cries over a show, And who always understands girls, Who advises me on shoes Who hates the subway Who is afraid of cars And who is also straight... And then, whether he's really "queer".
There are no "bi hags", as you may have noticed. We don't say "a bi hag" no! The "bi hag", she's will probably want to have sex the "fag hag" on the other hand, she knows she is safe. Well, sometimes she feels the need to, a little bit ! Yes, she wants to, but it's a transient love. That's it, a transient love like, like, uh... like transit, right! - yeah, a love of transit, that's it! She' s a girl who finds in the gay community, the sympathy of a very good girl-friend but of the opposite sex.
As a result, she can talk about anything as she would do with her best friend. Except that in addition to this, she allows herself to do things she wouldn't dare to do, maybe not with her best friend. and the fact of talking with... with boys who love the same thing she loves, yeah... I'm a fag hag, If, that's the way it goes.
Their sweet words can help me Feeling prettier A fag hag, A "fag hag" is a expression that has been created only very recently, which means absolutely nothing, it is a definition that we give to girls trying to get closer, whether to homosexuals, or to lesbians or to those who claim having a particular sexual orientation, to give themselves importance! She is a relief, for sure
Yes, how does she help with relief? - Ah well, just talking to her. Oh, yes, no, because no. - No, no, it's not anal no. It's not even oral, - It's not oral, either... No, it's not oral. - It's lacrimal! But we like... - It's lacrimal! - That's it! No, but that's it! The "fag hag" is lacrimal! - That's it! You're a fag hag shout it out loud and be proud of it, Make the most of these years, Where you're not your mother yet, A fag hag,
Yes, that's the way we say it, Hug them, kiss them, And dance all night... A fag hag... It's lacrimal! - But we like girls... - It's lacrimal! Yes, that's the way we say it,... Yes, that's the way we say it... (crowd screams) when we talk about my friends...
That's it my little ones, if you also, wish to participate and give us your opinion on "fag hags", well, don't be shy about it, leave us your message whether it's an audio or a video file. Because as you know, we have created kind of a TV forum web answering machine, that allows you to to communicate with us, to interact with each other. It's the HappyGay TV hotline. All you have to do is to click on the link
above, leave us a comment and you're going to see it's very simple, you just have to let yourself go with the flow! On that note, my little ones, I wish you a great day! See you soon! Ciao, ciao! That's it! The "fag hag" is lacrimal! - That's it! How to be Gay and Happy ?
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